One of the hardest challenges every lady has in the Relationship world is that of spotting a playboy and a relationship man. This is partly because the Playboy is smart enough to play by the rules and also because It’s hard to straight out ask a person if they’re really here to date you (sounds childish). Firstly, you have no reason to suspect that they might be if you’re still just getting to know them, and secondly, it might actually scare someone off even if they are real.This makes the dating game really hard for those of us who want something serious but don’t know how to tell if the person we’re after is the commitment type. There’s not much worse than pursuing a relationship with someone who is going to bolt at the first sign of something serious. It’s a mere waste of time and it’s honestly an emotional hardship. There’s only so much non-committal drama a person can handle before they snap.
Below are 10 sure-fire signs to help you spot that Playboy who is afraid of commitment or just not cut out for a relationship:
#1 He doesn’t get jealous… at all. No jealousy = no true feelings. Sure, jealousy can be hidden. But if there’s a situation where he should be getting mad and he really doesn’t seem to care, it’s because he doesn’t. [Read: Lovetips101: Guys, 10 smart ways to ask your crush out, see!]
#2 He’s very vague about what he does in his free time. If you have no idea what he’s doing all day long, even on the weekends, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know.
#3 He never asks about your personal life. Someone who wants to be in a relationship with you will want to know all about your personal life. If he’s not asking, he’s a commitment phobe. [Read: Lovetips101: Ladies, See 10 types of guys not to date]
#4 He doesn’t want to meet your friends or family. If he doesn’t plan on staying with you for very long, he won’t want to meet your friends or family. Those both mean commitment, and he can’t do it.
#5 His schedule is set in stone. Aka, he doesn’t make time for you. And not accommodating your schedule for someone else who is supposed to be important to you is a sign of a commitment phobe.
#6 He never consults with you on big decisions. If he quits his job or buys a new car [contact-form subject='[MyNaijaInfo|Nigeria%26#039;s number one Gist %26amp; Information portal’][contact-field label=’Name’ type=’name’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Email’ type=’email’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Website’ type=’url’/][contact-field label=’Comment’ type=’textarea’ required=’1’/][/contact-form] or even moves without telling you about it at all, he has no intentions of committing to you because he doesn’t value your opinion.
#7 He doesn’t introduce you to people he knows. If you two are out and about and just so happen to run into one of his friends, but he doesn’t even make an effort to introduce you, he doesn’t see you as someone he’s going to commit to anytime soon.
#8 He hasn’t had a relationship in a long time, if ever. Most of the time, you’ll be able to find out if the person you want to be with has had a girlfriend or more in the past. Whether that’s through talking to them or from internet snooping, you’ll find out. If he has no indication of any past relationships, it could be a sign that he just never commits.
#9 He never mentions the future. When he avoids conversations that have to do with the future, even if it’s just a week away, he doesn’t want to commit to even that long of a relationship with you. Future talk is for people who plan to be there in the future.
#10: He avoids the topic of your relationship. If you’ve ever attempted to bring up “the talk” and he has very adamantly changed the topic of discussion, he doesn’t want to have to tell you that he doesn’t want a relationship.
Bonus: He doesn’t confide in you. When he’s having a bad day or is really having a tough time making a decision and never opens up to you about any of it, he’s got a fear of commitment. People like him don’t want to invest so much into someone who they don’t want to have around for the long haul.
Now, if he’s showing a couple signs here and there, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he’ll never commit to you. But if your person of interest is guilty of more than a few of these sure signs of a commitment phobe, you may want to rethink your current situation.
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